HHave you ever noticed that two people can watch the same event and both see something completely different? Let me illustrate this idea with the diary of the wife and her husband on the same event.
Diary of a wife: “Tonight, I thought my husband was acting strangely. We planned to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day, so I thought he was upset that I was a bit late, but he didn’t comment on that. The conversation wasn’t flowing so I suggested we go somewhere quiet to talk.
“I asked him what was wrong and he didn’t say anything. I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset and it had nothing to do with me and shouldn’t be worried. On the way home, I told him I loved him. He smiled slightly and continued driving. I can’t explain his behavior. I don’t know why he didn’t say, “I love you too.
“When we got home, I felt like I had completely lost him. He just sat quietly and watched TV. Eventually, with the silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later he came to bed. But I still felt he was distracted and his thoughts were elsewhere. He fell asleep. I cried. I didn’t know what to do. My life is a disaster.”
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I thought this story would be appropriate for the Phoenicians for this week’s Phoenix Open golf tournament. Can you imagine what the spouse of a professional golfer goes through?
Here is a story that Carl George told many years ago at a conference I attended. It takes us beyond the tyranny of urgency or the tyranny of raw emotions to real, tangible and lasting solutions. Too often, jumping into feelings and conclusions without logic is like jumping off a cliff. The result for you and others can be devastating.
“Go with me to a country that has just been hit by a devastating earthquake, where 45,000 people are injured or dead. Two medical teams, each led by a doctor, were airlifted to the heart of the disaster area.
“The doctor leading the first crew steps out of the helicopter and is immediately overwhelmed by all the carnage he sees. There, just ten paces away, workers pull a mutilated living body from the rubble. Moved by compassion , the doctor rushes in and calculates the personnel, equipment and facilities needed to help this victim, assigning half of his medical team and half of their supplies to work on this one person.
“A handful of survivors, sensing the availability to help, bring another case to the doctor. This victim is in even worse condition. The doctor assigns the rest of his medical team and resources to take care of this person.
“Now the doctor faces a dilemma worse than when his helicopter landed. He would like to treat 44,998 more people but has already spent all his resources on the first two bodies presented to him. He decides that the only The solution is to make himself even more available. He decides that he and his staff will push themselves harder. They will be on call 20 hours a day, seven days a week, to treat as many people as possible.
“Unfortunately, this well-meaning doctor returned home a few weeks later. Her body did not follow her desire to help. With his resistance lowered, he caught one of the endemic diseases in the disaster area. The care he and his exhausted team provided stopped until replacements arrived.
“Meanwhile, what is the second medical team doing? Likewise, their preliminary evaluation only takes a few moments. They are also deeply shocked and moved with compassion at the massive death and pain evident in all directions.
“The second team’s chief medical officer quickly concludes that his small group alone is insufficient. So instead of picking up the first person in sight and immediately starting treatment, this doctor opts for a different plan. It calculates a strategy that will reach a maximum of people in a minimum of time, using the scarce resources available.
“The doctor announces to his team: ‘Let’s train people as resuscitation engineers. A group will ensure that drinking water is available; another will deal with shelter and food issues. Another group will work on waste control and public health by fixing the citywide sewage system to remove feces from the street before it mixes with the water supply or spills into the houses.
“This relief and preventive care, multiplied throughout the disaster area, delayed the growth of the infection and allowed the medical intervention to have a significant impact. The team recognized the reality but saw the best remedy for the situation. Which of the medical teams was the most caring? Both teams had equally strong feelings of love and compassion. However, they differed on how they showed concern. Most people’s initial response is to jump into immediate action, focusing on immediate needs.
What struck me the most about this illustration is that Jesus did the same thing as the second doctor most of the time. He was driven by the Holy Spirit, not by carnal impulses or the tyranny of urgency. His leadership touched 12 leaders who paved the way for a higher level of long-term care and life. Jesus was sent to save the whole world. He did it effectively and efficiently.
Our panic attack or attack plan for today is: “When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control how you react to what’s happening. That’s where the real power is” (Karen Salmansohn). In other words, when problems arise, then guesses, please don’t follow them.